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End-of-Life and Palliative Care

June 01, 2020
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  • 00:28it's a conversation about end
  • 00:30of life and palliative care,
  • 00:32with doctor Elizabeth Prsic,
  • 00:33Doctor Prsic is the director of
  • 00:35the Adult Palliative Care Program,
  • 00:37an an assistant professor at
  • 00:39Yale School of Medicine
  • 00:45Elizabeth,
  • 00:46I think there are at
  • 00:50least some misperceptions about
  • 00:53what exactly is palliative care.
  • 00:56Can you tell us a little bit about that?
  • 00:59I mean it goes all the way back to
  • 01:02previous presidential elections when people
  • 01:04were talking about death panels.
  • 01:06Is that really what we're talking about?
  • 01:08There's a lot of misperceptions
  • 01:10out there about what palliative
  • 01:11care is and what we can provide.
  • 01:14Palliative care is a medical subspecialty,
  • 01:16that's really focused on the
  • 01:18comprehensive care of patients with
  • 01:19serious illness and the support of their
  • 01:21caregivers and family members. We're
  • 01:23involved from the time of diagnosis
  • 01:25all the way through an illness,
  • 01:26whether that's
  • 01:27a terminal illness or whether they're
  • 01:29working towards curative therapy,
  • 01:31we're there to help support the
  • 01:33families as well as the patients.
  • 01:35Oftentimes we help with
  • 01:37symptom management and support,
  • 01:38but also
  • 01:40with communication support,
  • 01:41support for the medical
  • 01:42teams caring for the patients
  • 01:44as well.
  • 01:48So this is not hospice,
  • 01:50you're going to die,
  • 01:52let me help you to go blissfully
  • 01:54into the good night, right?
  • 01:56Tell us about the difference,
  • 01:59because I think that people really
  • 02:02get confused between palliative
  • 02:04care which you said
  • 02:06starts at the time of diagnosis
  • 02:08and can even be used for people
  • 02:10who are undergoing therapy for
  • 02:12curative intent versus Hospice. So
  • 02:14what's Hospice?
  • 02:16Hospice is care that's really focused
  • 02:18on end of life where a patients prognosis
  • 02:21is 6 months or less and that's really
  • 02:24focused on the comfort based care of
  • 02:27the patient
  • 02:29rather than any curatives disease.
  • 02:31Most Hospice care
  • 02:33is provided in the home setting,
  • 02:36with families serving as primary caretakers.
  • 02:38Although some Hospice care is delivered
  • 02:40in a hospital setting or in a nursing
  • 02:43facility or even inpatient
  • 02:46require intensive management so Hospice care
  • 02:49is a form of palliative care in that
  • 02:51we're really focusing on the support of
  • 02:53patients and families facing serious illness,
  • 02:55but Hospice care is really
  • 02:57directed towards the end of life and
  • 03:00symptom support rather than
  • 03:02curative
  • 03:03directed therapy, so one
  • 03:05important thing I think for people
  • 03:07to understand is that difference because
  • 03:09so often people will have
  • 03:11pain or they'll have nausea,
  • 03:13or they'll have
  • 03:15some sort of issue or an emotional
  • 03:17issue and somebody will say,
  • 03:19maybe you oughta talk to
  • 03:21some of the palliative care team
  • 03:23people and people will go, Oh my God,
  • 03:25what do you mean? Am I dying?
  • 03:28Which is not the same.
  • 03:31You also specialize in end of life
  • 03:33and for a lot of patients,
  • 03:36especially patients with cancer,
  • 03:37that's something that they don't
  • 03:39really want to think about,
  • 03:40but they are forced to kind of think about.
  • 03:43Tell us about what that's like.
  • 03:45When you say I think the patients
  • 03:47don't want to think about it,
  • 03:49I think that is in many cases true.
  • 03:52But oftentimes patients do think a
  • 03:54lot about it and may not have the
  • 03:56tools or may not have the comfort
  • 03:58level to speak to certain providers
  • 04:00or family members about that so
  • 04:02in a lot of cases,
  • 04:04I feel that we're having these
  • 04:06conversations that families and patients
  • 04:08often want to have and may have been
  • 04:10thinking of having for a long time,
  • 04:12but just didn't have the outlet or the
  • 04:14support to have these tough conversations.
  • 04:17And I think that a lot of
  • 04:19people are just scared they don't
  • 04:21know what to expect and that makes
  • 04:23the conversation very difficult.
  • 04:25So how do you start
  • 04:28having that conversation?
  • 04:30Each and every patient in each and
  • 04:32every circumstance is very different.
  • 04:34Obviously there is a lot of fear,
  • 04:36and apprehension
  • 04:37about care at the end of life,
  • 04:40and about confronting end of life.
  • 04:42But that isn't always the case
  • 04:44for every patient.
  • 04:45There are many patients that I speak to that
  • 04:48have very clear wishes about what they want
  • 04:50at the end of life,
  • 04:52and in particular what they
  • 04:53don't want at the end of life.
  • 04:55There are a lot of fears that
  • 04:58people are willing to talk about.
  • 05:00For instance,
  • 05:00fear of uncontrolled symptoms of pain,
  • 05:02fears of abandonment,
  • 05:03feeling that their doctors or other
  • 05:06members of their care team may not
  • 05:08continue to care for them if they quote,
  • 05:10you know, give up or stop focusing
  • 05:12on disease directed therapy,
  • 05:14and that's not at all the case.
  • 05:17There's always support for patients,
  • 05:18and there's always things that we can
  • 05:20do to help them cope with their illness,
  • 05:23cope with their symptoms,
  • 05:24and support them along this really
  • 05:26natural and universal process.
  • 05:29So one of the things that I
  • 05:32think people may have fears about
  • 05:34is what happens after death.
  • 05:37I mean, whether they come from a spiritual
  • 05:41background or religious background or not.
  • 05:45I think that
  • 05:46may play into that apprehension.
  • 05:49Talk about how you broach that topic.
  • 05:51I mean, are there people on the
  • 05:53palliative care or the end of life
  • 05:56team who can discuss those issues?
  • 05:58And how exactly does that conversation go?
  • 06:00That's a big question.
  • 06:02Maybe one
  • 06:03of the biggest questions that
  • 06:05we have as human beings, right?
  • 06:07And I'm glad you brought this
  • 06:09question up because I can talk a bit about
  • 06:13the wonderful team with which we work.
  • 06:19We have dedicated physicians,
  • 06:20nurse practitioners,
  • 06:21nurses and also social workers and chaplains,
  • 06:24both inpatient and outpatient,
  • 06:25as well as a dedicated art therapist and
  • 06:28a dedicated psychologist who only focus
  • 06:30on patients that are at the Cancer Center,
  • 06:33not end of life necessarily,
  • 06:35but anywhere throughout their cancer journey.
  • 06:37Supporting them in this regard,
  • 06:39so many patients do have a lot of
  • 06:41what we call existential distress
  • 06:43or spiritual concerns.
  • 06:45That's something that all palliative
  • 06:47care providers are adapted at
  • 06:49identifying and discussing
  • 06:50with their patients.
  • 06:51But in particular,
  • 06:52we rely upon our spiritual care
  • 06:55providers and our social workers
  • 06:56and chaplains for those particular
  • 06:58needs that patients may present with.
  • 07:01That doesn't mean that patients necessarily
  • 07:03have a strong religious belief,
  • 07:05or they may not identify it as
  • 07:07spiritual or existential distress.
  • 07:09That's sort of our jargon that we
  • 07:11use to talk about these things,
  • 07:14but you know,
  • 07:15fears about what happens next
  • 07:17with finding meaning
  • 07:18in their life and their current
  • 07:20experience is thinking about legacy.
  • 07:22You know what's important to them now?
  • 07:24What's important for them to
  • 07:26leave behind and pass forward,
  • 07:28and sometimes that presents in anxiety
  • 07:30or sometimes that presents in
  • 07:33thinking more about the spiritual
  • 07:35or deeper aspects of really the
  • 07:38human experience.
  • 07:38So that's a big question and we try to
  • 07:42address that on an individual level.
  • 07:45I've had many patients that really don't
  • 07:47identify with any particular religion
  • 07:49or identify themselves as either,
  • 07:51you know, generally spiritual or atheists,
  • 07:54or relapsed Catholic,
  • 07:56as many people say.
  • 07:57But there are many different ways to
  • 08:00kind of talk about these things and
  • 08:03provide comfort and support and just
  • 08:05a shared sense of humanity facing
  • 08:07these questions and concerns.
  • 08:09and when you talk about,
  • 08:11the questions about leaving a legacy.
  • 08:14I think the other
  • 08:16thing that happens
  • 08:18at the end of life that
  • 08:21people may be thinking
  • 08:23about is relationships,
  • 08:24either relationships that require
  • 08:26mending things that have happened,
  • 08:28that you know have not been resolved,
  • 08:31and how to how to deal
  • 08:34with those relationships,
  • 08:35particularly as you face the end of
  • 08:38life because we all have relationships
  • 08:41where there may have been some strain.
  • 08:44There may have been,
  • 08:46you know, people have fights,
  • 08:48or bickering or whatever,
  • 08:50and then you're facing this
  • 08:54inevitable event and you may want
  • 08:59to find closure in that.
  • 09:02Is that part of what
  • 09:05your team can help people with?
  • 09:07How do you do that?
  • 09:09Yes, absolutely.
  • 09:12And
  • 09:13again, I think when we talk about
  • 09:15palliative care we talk about all these
  • 09:18kind of larger issues and larger questions.
  • 09:21And when I think about how it's
  • 09:24implemented and how it unfolds day to day,
  • 09:26it's such an individual experience.
  • 09:29So I think one thing that we're
  • 09:30particularly adept at is identifying
  • 09:32these relationships.
  • 09:34These legacy concerns that people may have.
  • 09:36Sometimes they're linked to
  • 09:37physical symptoms. To be honest,
  • 09:39I've had patients that you know,
  • 09:41their blood pressure goes up, their
  • 09:44heart rate is high, they have headaches
  • 09:45and day
  • 09:48after day you kind of notice
  • 09:49there is always a certain time of day
  • 09:52when certain people are visiting.
  • 09:54You know what's going on with those.
  • 09:56People they have been
  • 09:58hospitalised many, many times and
  • 10:00they want to make amends with a loved
  • 10:03one that maybe they have been
  • 10:05separated from for whatever reason.
  • 10:07Or want to reconnect with
  • 10:10children or spouses or
  • 10:12make a lifelong commitment.
  • 10:14We've had several marriages
  • 10:15in just the past year,
  • 10:18both of patients and a family
  • 10:20member and just,
  • 10:21you know,
  • 10:22solidifying that link or recognizing
  • 10:24these missing pieces in people's
  • 10:26lives or these important components
  • 10:28of closure of legacy for them,
  • 10:30and helping to facilitate that.
  • 10:32A big part of that comes into play
  • 10:35with children, with guardianship.
  • 10:37With financial planning and we actually
  • 10:39have a program
  • 10:44where we have
  • 10:47a partnership with the Yale Law
  • 10:49school and there's a
  • 10:51partnership that's facilitated with the
  • 10:53palliative care service and social work
  • 10:55where we can help provide some legal
  • 10:58systems to patients that may need it,
  • 11:00for instance, to help provide assistance
  • 11:02with guardianship or paperwork to help
  • 11:05give people peace of mind that maybe
  • 11:07they've been unable to obtain through
  • 11:09the usual measures because of illness.
  • 11:11Because of repeated hospitalizations.
  • 11:13Helping patients get married
  • 11:16in the hospital or helping facilitate a
  • 11:18ceremony so that they can really make a
  • 11:21concrete demonstration of their family
  • 11:24ties and that brings so much peace
  • 11:26and closure and that does more than any
  • 11:29medication that I could certainly provide.
  • 11:32We rely heavily on our
  • 11:34palliative team for that,
  • 11:36and in particular our social
  • 11:38work and Chaplin team.
  • 11:40You certainly don't think of
  • 11:43palliative care services as being,
  • 11:45wedding court.
  • 11:49But it is cool that
  • 11:52you really do take a holistic
  • 11:55view of what are the things that
  • 11:58are important in this person's life,
  • 12:00that they want to celebrate,
  • 12:02that they want to amend, that
  • 12:05they want to get done before
  • 12:08the capstone of their life, right?
  • 12:10And even thinking back on
  • 12:12different capstones that
  • 12:14they've had in the past.
  • 12:16Are they proud of what if they spent their
  • 12:19lives cultivating and practicing and
  • 12:21what's important to them?
  • 12:23And so I think as physicians,
  • 12:25we tend to think about illness
  • 12:27and end of life from a very
  • 12:29medical viewpoint as we should.
  • 12:31But really, from a patient perspective
  • 12:33and from a human experience,
  • 12:35there's really so much more
  • 12:37and I think with palliative care
  • 12:39we help obviously with the symptom
  • 12:41support with the communication
  • 12:43support we have the time to really
  • 12:45sit down and delve into these deeper
  • 12:47issues and help resolve and support
  • 12:49patients at times of crisis.
  • 12:52And great sadness,
  • 12:53but also there's such an
  • 12:55opportunity for joy for meaning,
  • 12:56and I think that's what
  • 12:58keeps all of us doing what
  • 13:00we do.
  • 13:02I was at a conference several years ago now,
  • 13:05and it was
  • 13:07a career fair for students,
  • 13:09and they were thinking about
  • 13:11different specialties.
  • 13:12And one of them came up to me and asked me,
  • 13:15how could anybody do
  • 13:17palliative care and end of life?
  • 13:19Because I mean it's just such a depressing
  • 13:23field
  • 13:26and I came back and I asked one of
  • 13:30our palliative care physicians about that,
  • 13:33and she said, well,
  • 13:36the two greatest moments are life and death,
  • 13:39and those are
  • 13:41inevitable.
  • 13:42And there's something important
  • 13:44about being there for patients
  • 13:46at those two times,
  • 13:48absolutely.
  • 13:48I mean, it's truly an honor to be
  • 13:51with patients that are going through
  • 13:54difficult times wherever they are
  • 13:56along their journey of serious illness
  • 13:59and certainly at end of life and the
  • 14:01way I see it is it's not just about the
  • 14:04patient but also about their family and
  • 14:06caregiver and what happens after the
  • 14:08patients pass and their bereavement.
  • 14:10How they look back upon
  • 14:11the patient's illness.
  • 14:12Did they feel supported?
  • 14:13Cared for.
  • 14:15Did the patient feel that things went
  • 14:18in a way that they wanted things to
  • 14:20go. Were their wishes respected,
  • 14:22their goals recognized
  • 14:23and appreciated and valued.
  • 14:25So I know for many people it does
  • 14:27seem like a very sad topic
  • 14:30and there is a lot of loss and grief.
  • 14:33But our team finds a lot of meaning
  • 14:35and a lot of joy and we do this
  • 14:38because it's a passion.
  • 14:39I don't think any of us
  • 14:41woke up
  • 14:42the last day of college
  • 14:45and said, I'm going to be a palliative
  • 14:47care provider but
  • 14:49we find our way into this field
  • 14:51for a reason and we're generally
  • 14:53a pretty happy bunch,
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  • 14:56how you care not only for the
  • 14:58patient but also for their family
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  • 15:56Welcome
  • 15:56back. We are discussing end of life and
  • 16:00palliative care and right before the
  • 16:02break Elizabeth was telling us that this
  • 16:05really is not necessarily a morbid field
  • 16:08that part of her job is to really
  • 16:11care for and support and at times even
  • 16:14bring joy to patients at
  • 16:17a really important time in their life.
  • 16:20And it's not just the patient,
  • 16:22right Elizabeth, it's also,
  • 16:24you know, caring for the family
  • 16:26and the caregivers.
  • 16:28So talk a little bit about that.
  • 16:32Being a caregiver, I think is one of
  • 16:35the hardest jobs that anyone can have.
  • 16:37Being a caregiver from my past experience,
  • 16:40when I think about myself going through
  • 16:42medical school and residency and training,
  • 16:44I tend to think about the caregiver as the
  • 16:47support person that brings the patient to
  • 16:50the hospital that picks up their medications,
  • 16:52that helps coordinate things and what
  • 16:55I've learned through personal experience
  • 16:57and what I see every day is that this
  • 17:00is really an all encompassing job that
  • 17:02you can't really understand until
  • 17:04you've been there.
  • 17:06We recognize that the caregivers
  • 17:08are really the most important people
  • 17:11in the lives of our patients,
  • 17:13and vice versa and try
  • 17:15our best to recognize their value,
  • 17:18incorporate them into medical
  • 17:19decision making, into conversations,
  • 17:21making sure we communicate with
  • 17:23them and bring in communication
  • 17:25from the medical teams as well as
  • 17:27just recognizing that essential
  • 17:29role that all caregivers play.
  • 17:31And really, the
  • 17:33extreme exhaustion and fatigue and
  • 17:36distress that this job carries with it.
  • 17:40I mean, I can imagine
  • 17:44watching a loved one face the
  • 17:47end of life and watching them
  • 17:50go through everything,
  • 17:54treatments, symptoms,
  • 17:55ultimately facing their demise,
  • 17:58it is a harrowing experience for them
  • 18:02while they're trying to be supportive
  • 18:06of the person going through it and
  • 18:10I can't imagine what that's like.
  • 18:13So tell me about how you not only
  • 18:15try to support the patient and
  • 18:17help them with their symptoms and
  • 18:19help them to find peace at the
  • 18:21end of life and at the same time,
  • 18:24try to help the caregiver who
  • 18:27themselves is going through
  • 18:29their own grief and sadness,
  • 18:31watching the demise or potential
  • 18:33demise of a loved one.
  • 18:36I think number one is
  • 18:39recognizing their role,
  • 18:40recognizing their presence, incorporating
  • 18:42caregivers into the communication,
  • 18:43whether that be inpatient or outpatient,
  • 18:46regardless of whatever serious
  • 18:48illness their loved one is facing.
  • 18:51We really view the palliative
  • 18:53care patient experience as that
  • 18:55of a patient and caregiver.
  • 18:59Sometimes it's a family of 20
  • 19:01that's in the patient's room,
  • 19:03and so we recognize them.
  • 19:08They are really integrated into
  • 19:09the patient's care.
  • 19:10We involve them in our
  • 19:12spiritual care in our social work,
  • 19:15we involve them in our symptom assessment.
  • 19:17We involve them in every single communication
  • 19:19and recognize their expertise.
  • 19:21They know the patient better than
  • 19:23anyone else, and they always will,
  • 19:25no matter how much time we've
  • 19:27been with them in the ICU setting,
  • 19:30or how many labs we've reviewed,
  • 19:32or how far back into their
  • 19:34record we've gone.
  • 19:36They know the patient best.
  • 19:38Our social workers also follow
  • 19:42patients, families, outpatient.
  • 19:43They have caregiver support groups.
  • 19:45They have bereavement support groups as well.
  • 19:50It's a hard job.
  • 19:51There's a lot of resources out
  • 19:53there that social work may also
  • 19:55connect folks with, both at a state and
  • 19:58local and national level.
  • 20:00I fill out a lot of family
  • 20:02medical leave paperwork.
  • 20:03Even though any physician can do that,
  • 20:06but it is time intensive and it's
  • 20:08something that many people don't
  • 20:09think about until they're kind
  • 20:11of asked,
  • 20:13because they can imagine that you know,
  • 20:16while the caregiver is the caregiver,
  • 20:18the caregiver is also the patient.
  • 20:20Who isva different patient,
  • 20:22but you know somebody who is also
  • 20:24going through their own form of
  • 20:27depression and their own form of
  • 20:29internal pain and their own issues,
  • 20:31which only add to the plate
  • 20:33that they've already got.
  • 20:34That's already overflowing with
  • 20:35all of the issues that they have
  • 20:38to deal with for their loved one,
  • 20:41right? So, recognizing that this is
  • 20:43a group effort, not any of this,
  • 20:45caregiving is not a single person's job.
  • 20:48And there's a team of people to
  • 20:51help support every patient and
  • 20:53every caregiver and if it's
  • 20:55a situation that
  • 20:57isn't safe for their patient or
  • 20:58isn't safe for the caregiver,
  • 21:00I've had so many caregivers
  • 21:02breaking an arm break a leg,
  • 21:04they haven't slept in days
  • 21:05and we need to recognize it.
  • 21:07You know everyone needs to be cared for here.
  • 21:10This is not a one person job.
  • 21:12This is a marathon, not a race.
  • 21:14And there's a team of people really
  • 21:16here to support you and in the
  • 21:17hospital we have a lot of resources,
  • 21:19of course, but we also help coordinate
  • 21:21outpatient support as well,
  • 21:23whether that's home health aides,
  • 21:24visiting nurses, home
  • 21:25care, home Hospice support,
  • 21:27medical equipment hospital beds,
  • 21:29commodes,
  • 21:29things like that that will make
  • 21:32caregivers lives easier when
  • 21:34they leave the hospital.
  • 21:36What about your personal health, right?
  • 21:39Because as a member of
  • 21:42the palliative care team,
  • 21:44I can imagine how emotionally invested you
  • 21:47are in your patients and how exhausting
  • 21:50just from an emotional burnout perspective
  • 21:54that can be helping all of these patients
  • 21:57and their
  • 21:59families with their medical issues,
  • 22:02their symptom issues.
  • 22:04Their emotional issues.
  • 22:07That must be exhausting.
  • 22:10It can be exhausting.
  • 22:11I will not lie.
  • 22:13I think all of us in medicine and
  • 22:15many other fields we work
  • 22:16a lot of hours
  • 22:19and do a lot of good work.
  • 22:22I think it's important to take breaks
  • 22:24to step away every now and then,
  • 22:26but I think for me one of the key
  • 22:28things that help prevent burnout and
  • 22:31helps with provider and caregiver well
  • 22:33being is I find so much meaning in my
  • 22:36work and a lot of joy in the work that I do.
  • 22:39So seeing a patient that was
  • 22:41in just insufferable pain,
  • 22:43unable to walk,
  • 22:44having trouble eating and drinking,
  • 22:45and two days later he's up
  • 22:47and walking the halls,
  • 22:48passing me by as I do my notes and
  • 22:52those sorts of things just bring me so much
  • 22:55joy and we do really great work every day.
  • 22:58So that makes the job easier
  • 22:59in a lot of ways
  • 23:01and I think many people on
  • 23:03my team feel the same way.
  • 23:05So it's intense and it's important
  • 23:07to take time away and whether
  • 23:09that's time with family,
  • 23:10doing things that I enjoy
  • 23:12outside of the hospital,
  • 23:13spending time with people that
  • 23:15I enjoy that are on my vacation,
  • 23:17I do enjoy time with my
  • 23:19patients and my colleagues,
  • 23:20of course,
  • 23:22but I do find a lot of meaning
  • 23:25in the work I do every day.
  • 23:27So on one hand it is very challenging
  • 23:29work and it's important to
  • 23:31recognize the potential for burnout.
  • 23:33But at the same time I think my
  • 23:35life without this work would
  • 23:37be significantly lacking.
  • 23:38So I enjoy what I do and I
  • 23:40know my colleagues feel the
  • 23:43same way. That's so important.
  • 23:46We talked a little bit about
  • 23:49making sure that when people pass away
  • 23:51they pass away as they would wish.
  • 23:54That their wishes are fulfilled in
  • 23:57and that they find closure,
  • 24:00in
  • 24:02kind of put the finishing touches on
  • 24:05the things that they wanted to do.
  • 24:07Tell us about preparing for end of life
  • 24:10because it's certainly not something that
  • 24:13we all like to think about or talk about.
  • 24:16And you had mentioned
  • 24:19that one of the services that you have,
  • 24:22in the myriad of services,
  • 24:25was a partnership with Yale
  • 24:28Law to help with legal documents?
  • 24:31But what kinds of things should people really
  • 24:35be thinking about before?
  • 24:39Looking at end of life because we
  • 24:42all know that it's coming at some point.
  • 24:45It's coming and we we may not
  • 24:47want to think about it.
  • 24:49We may think that it is,
  • 24:51you know,
  • 24:52decades and decades and decades away.
  • 24:54And so we don't think about it.
  • 24:57But what things should we be thinking
  • 24:59about and talking about with our families?
  • 25:02I think there
  • 25:03are two perspectives to take when you
  • 25:05think about preparing for end of life.
  • 25:08So there is the caregiver perspective
  • 25:10and sort of the practical
  • 25:12legal power of attorney
  • 25:13perspective,
  • 25:15and that's a hard job,
  • 25:17so there's that perspective,
  • 25:19the more practical sense.
  • 25:20And then there's really the
  • 25:21patient focused perspective,
  • 25:23which I think is highly individualized.
  • 25:25So in terms of the patient perspective,
  • 25:27each and every patient is different
  • 25:29than what I try to do is just normalize
  • 25:33whatever is important to them at that time.
  • 25:35So when patients face their
  • 25:38mortality or nearing end of life,
  • 25:40every patient has a unique story.
  • 25:42Some people are really fixated on, and
  • 25:45I had one patient who he managed all
  • 25:47the practical things for his home.
  • 25:48Everything outside
  • 25:49of the home was his job.
  • 25:51Everything inside the home was his wife's
  • 25:53job and he said I need to teach her
  • 25:55how to use the snow plow and this
  • 25:57was a really key thing for him and I
  • 26:00thought it was so touching that this was
  • 26:02how this man lived his life.
  • 26:04These were the people that he
  • 26:06cared about and this was his job.
  • 26:07And
  • 26:09it may have seemed silly
  • 26:11to some other people in his life,
  • 26:13but for him this was really important
  • 26:15to make sur. He already had all the
  • 26:17financial things and all the other things.
  • 26:19But his wife needed to learn how
  • 26:21to use a snow plow.
  • 26:23For other people,
  • 26:23it's a physical legacy, right?
  • 26:26So I want so and so to have my wedding
  • 26:29ring I want so and so to have my boat,
  • 26:32for other people it's
  • 26:34personal physical items that they
  • 26:36need to worry about other people.
  • 26:38They may have already thought about these
  • 26:40things, I've paid for my children's college.
  • 26:44but I haven't really thought about
  • 26:46myself and what I want to leave
  • 26:48behind or what I need to process
  • 26:51so every individual is different.
  • 26:53There was a gentleman I took care of
  • 26:56many years ago in a very far away place,
  • 26:59but he was passing away at a pretty
  • 27:01young age and it had a really diverse,
  • 27:04exciting life and traveled extensively,
  • 27:06studied extensively and he helped
  • 27:07plan itinerariesvfor trips
  • 27:09that he wanted his family to take
  • 27:11that were meaningful for him.
  • 27:13So this is where I studied abroad.
  • 27:15This is where I had my first internship.
  • 27:18This is the coffee shop that I used
  • 27:21to study at back in wherever and so
  • 27:24that was important to him,
  • 27:25and we helped him facilitate
  • 27:28writing all of these things down and
  • 27:31documenting them.
  • 27:33Everybody is different and I think I
  • 27:34try to educate caregivers and family
  • 27:36members to respect whatever it is that
  • 27:39is important to their loved ones.
  • 27:40So even if you're kind of
  • 27:42rolling your eyes like
  • 27:44I don't care about all of your passwords,
  • 27:46I don't need to know the
  • 27:48last four of every bank account.
  • 27:50But for some people,
  • 27:51that's just what they need to process.
  • 27:53I liken it to when you have that nesting
  • 27:56instinct when you're very, very pregnant,
  • 27:58you just need to clean out
  • 28:01whatever it is you need to clean out.
  • 28:03And there's just
  • 28:04no rationalizing it right.
  • 28:06You need to clean out that
  • 28:08bottom drawer in your garage.
  • 28:10Otherwise you're going to go crazy.
  • 28:12So whatever it is that people feel
  • 28:15the need to do, respect that.
  • 28:17Support them and
  • 28:19normalize that itch, whatever
  • 28:21that itch is.
  • 28:21For people as a caregiver,
  • 28:24I was medical and legal power
  • 28:26of attorney for my mother, and
  • 28:28it was sort of a crash course in all of this.
  • 28:32And, you
  • 28:33write down all those passwords.
  • 28:35Keep a running log of all that
  • 28:38important information because it is a
  • 28:41boatload for people to take care of both
  • 28:43if patients are diagnosed with serious
  • 28:46illness or unable to participate
  • 28:48in medical and financial decisions.
  • 28:51I view it from a caregiver perspective
  • 28:53and inpatient perspective,
  • 28:55but there's no right or wrong way,
  • 28:57and there's no one
  • 28:59way to do it, certainly
  • 29:01Dr. Prsic is the director of
  • 29:03the Adult Palliative Care Program,
  • 29:05an an assistant professor at
  • 29:07the Yale School of Medicine.
  • 29:08If you have questions,
  • 29:10the address is canceranswers@yale.edu
  • 29:11and past editions of the program
  • 29:13are available in audio and written
  • 29:15form at Yalecancercenter.org.
  • 29:16We hope you'll join us next week to learn
  • 29:19more about the fight against cancer.
  • 29:21Here on Connecticut Public Radio.